You can complete all five stages in five minutes and be done with them.
You can revisit each stage of grief as many times as you like - even if it’s a stage you’d rather not visit anymore. In addition, progression through the stages isn’t like playing a video game where you complete one level and move on neatly to the next. It’s probably even possible that you can be in all five stages at once. Progression through the five stages of grief isn’t linear - you bounce around in and out of all of them like unto a superball thrown in a hallway. And you have to recover from the initial shock before you can start fumbling your way through the other stages. In situations like Francisco’s suicide, I think there’s a sixth step that precedes all of the others: Shock. Perhaps Little Known Facts About the Grieving Process: There are five stages in the Grief and Loss Process - Denial. I would like to take a moment to thank the Cooking Channel for making that complex emotional description even remotely possible for me. And yet, somehow, there seems to be some vital ingredient missing… Guys are not built to process complex emotions.įor me, it’s as if everything inside my heart and head were pureed in a blender then poured back inside me, creating a mélange of melancholia suffused with sorrow and regret, with hints of pain and loss. Guys essentially have two emotions: they are either okay, or they aren’t. I’ve expounded on my General Theory of Guys in previous posts. Those people were sitting at the bus stop.” “What the fuck are you doing, you goddamn morons!“ I gave up driving for a couple of weeks because I found myself screaming at everyone whenever I got behind the wheel of our SUV. I honestly don’t know how my wife has been able to deal with my volatile moods of late, and when I say volatile, that is an understatement. As an example: I’ll be fine on Monday, but on Tuesday I’m a basketcase. I’ve gotten to the point where I can fake being okay again, though it very much depends on the day. So did most of the people I talked to because they had no idea what to say in response. I honestly don’t know how I’m doing right now.” And I left it at that. But no one really wants to hear your problems if you’re not okay, so I responded thusly, “I don’t know. I wasn’t okay, and I didn’t have the energy to even try to fake it.
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We say it without even thinking, and that’s usually how we respond.įor about a month after Francisco took his life, I had no idea how to respond to that question. It seems like a simple question, doesn’t it? It’s a greeting that we utilize so many times during each day that it’s almost automatic with everyone we meet, even people we don’t know. “Hey Mark, how’s it going?” “Hola Marcos, ¿cómo estás?”
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